So, a man walks down a street, "sashaying" in his new outfit. However, his outfit is nothing but ordinary but he's proud of it. Let's assume the brand is "BUM" and he's wearing cargo pants. Now, somewhere nearby, another man striding in his office attire (shirt, coat and etc) to a nearby cafeteria to get his coffee. He looks neat and confident. Finally, just at a corner, another man, holding a ZEGNA bag, wearing Prada shoes, Armani suit and all those very "out there and up there" brands.
You are a girl. Ask yourself, in very general terms, which man would you go for? I can be quite certain that you would go for the Armani guy. You may like the BUM guy, but ultimately you'll settle for the Armani.
Here's the thing: We're as attractive as our economic value (I quote a friend for this sentence). Without that, we're basically unattractive for long term relationship.
There was a tv show recently with a segment on guy's attractiveness to the opposite sex. 3 men were placed in front of the audience. One very good looking man, one ordinary man and another less than perfect man. The ladies were asked to rate which one they prefer as their partner. Needless to say:-
#1: Good looking guy
#2: Ordinary guy
#3: Less than perfect guy
Then the scenario changed. Annual income (AI) of these guys was disclosed. A re-rating of the above is requested once more of the ladies. The results as follows:-
#1: Less than perfect guy
#2: Ordinary guy
#3: Good looking guy
Why? Because:-
#1: Less than perfect guy (AI @USD300k)
#2: Ordinary guy (AI @USD100k)
#3: Good looking guy (AI @USD40k)
In short, good looking guys with just the good looking factor ONLY is as good as fucked. Male models especially. Their income is just a blimp compared to the female models. Not many male models out there with the equivalent income of their counter-part. Just google it and you'll know that it is a fact! (grin).
Ladies apparently need men to protect, provide and profess. These were the ladies requirements as shown on tv. But these (IMHO) only apply to ladies in general, that earn mid-range salary. Try asking a high-flying woman of the 3 requirements above and they would tell you to go to hell. "I can provide for myself, protect myself and I don't need people to profess their love for me. I'm independent". They have money and they can do whatever they want. Once more, guys without adequate income is once more, fucked.
This has to do with age too. Let's check our demographic for all these love "stuff":-
Younger ladies want older, more mature and capable man for security.
The older, more mature and capable men want younger ladies because THEY WANT YOUNGER LADIES.
Younger guys want older, more mature and capable ladies for security. They don't have to worry about sharing income to provide for household stuff or etc.
Older, more mature and capable ladies want younger guys as TOYBOYs. Why, because they want them and younger guys are more fun too, in bed, out of bed and etc. They are exciting! You get my drift.
So, where's the combination of young + young and mature + mature. I blame the ever changing social landscape (that is "materialism"). Due to the materialistic nature of people and the way we were brought up, we succumb to such environment. I know because I have a few friends that only target a select group of individuals with impeccable financial records. For what? I can only wonder.
So, us guys need to improve our credit rating and beef up our bank account(s) if we want to settle down nicely. I'm not saying that if we don't do the above, we're doomed for singlehood (which is not so bad, if you ask me). But if you want to be a sure fire winner in a long-term relationship, you need to do this because one of the pre-requisite out there is excellent financial records. It may not be from your potential partner, but it could be from her family.
One must not discount the fact that there are soul mates or etc that last forever based on just love. There're many successful relationships that weren't and aren't built solely on $$$. Love at first sight and etc. However, financial security is important. Without that or losing that, it could potentially strain your relationship, no matter how strong it is (was).
Again, if you find that the above is not true in general, please e-mail me. I want to know why. Convince me and I'll re-write the entire post. :). I like a good discussion.
