Yeap, these 2 words come together and they shall never be separated as long as the Earth is round!
Men think of sex, 24/7. If we're not doing it, we're thinking about it!
In any grown-up relationships, sex is fundamental. Since (generally) men's sex drive is higher than women (we're programmed that way), women become the "determinant" on whether we will have sex or not. Also, foreplay is most important. Not only to women, but also to men. We don't just want to jump in and go to town. We want to enjoy the process. If we do jump straight into the wagon and go to town, highly likely, we don't enjoy it and voila, we'll still be frustrated. Why? It's no longer enjoyable but somewhat of a stress thing... Get ready, go, get it done, wrap up!!! Big No.
From what I've read online regarding statistics of successful relationships, couples who have sex more than 3 times a week tend to have longer, healthier relationships. I also recall reading an article about how men become frustrated and ultimately their relationships were affected:-
Man wanted to have sex...
Partner didn't want to have sex...
(asked a few times and was turned down)...
(man thought that it's ok. can tolerate. after all, relationship is not all about sex)..
(a few days have gone by)...
Finally, they had sex!
(the above repeats, albeit without the sex)...
(the above cycle, with sex, continued).
(after less than a year, the rock solid relationship tumbled.)
So was the tale that was told online by one of the anonymous guy in the States. (i'll get hold of the article on this story and/or the articles on the theory of men & sex once I find it again).
So there, we as the male species, builds relationships based on (partly) sex. We love you very much but we're still men.
5 comments:
Ot
Hmm ernie, "Ot"? Haha.
hahaha..
my comments that was not publish properly was:
it varies from couple to couple. Sometimes the language of love does not revolved around sex, it is more than that. if the relationship is all about sex, then what is love to the relationship - "Get ready, go, get it done, wrap up!!!"
What make relationship strong, lies in the couple itself. How to tolerate in relationship, communicate and respect each other equally.
Nonetheless, we still enjoying sex as part of the relationship. Kan, kan, kan?
Phewww! hope this would be publish!!
a relationship thts based on sex??...wonder wht would this world become??maybe cycling or hiking is nxt...lol
Indeed. Ergo, the word "partly" was inserted. We don't based our relationship 100% on sex. That would be completely weird. It's as if you're in it for the sex. LOL. Communications, respect and etc are still very important stuff in a relationship. Without these, you can't even start a relationship... or you can? (I don't know).
What I'm saying is that a relationship without sex or not enough sex, could or would put a strain in any relationship. A man could only self-please (to put it very mildly) that many times before blowing his top and go crazy.
Whilst many facets of a relationship can be non-sex related, I think and I would say quite confidently that sex is an "integral" part of a ADULT relationship.
Disclaimer: People below the age of 18, please do not subscribe to this thought. Your actions shall not be associated with my words and would deem entirely your own judgement.
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